FATshion Journal Blog by Lilly

I would like to begin with a disclaimer: I am not a love or relationship expert by any stretch of the imagination. I have been thinking about writing this post for a while but have been debating because I do not want to come off as having all the answers...because I DON'T. A while back  +Victor Ngo and I talked about how we are going to raise our kids... And someone asked us, "You guys already talked about that?" And I thought to myself... umm yeah...!?! I have always been the kind of person that needs to talk EVERYTHING out! I need to have conversations to certify and solidify things... let's just say I am a therapists' dream come true (or worst nightmare...hmmm) On our first official date, Vinh talked about wanting 10 kids...! Anyways, as Vinh and I began dating - I wasn't ok with being called "Babe" until we actually talked about being exclusive because I didn't feel right having a pet name if I was still seeing other guys or vic...

I have been pondering about this post since I read this Buzzfeed  The 6 Types of Friends Everyone Should Have (Check it out before and/or after reading this post; just make sure to come back ;-) As I read this Buzzfeed, I kept on asking myself "But why...what's the point" If my friendships are not genuine and they're not substantial, what's the point in a friendship? Which got me thinking, how many friends do you have and how many of them are legit friends, the "ride or die" friends and which are the friends that are just "along for the ride???" Interestingly enough, people around began to have this conversations without any bait from me. And people's responses ranged all over the spectrum AND what I summed up were two types of individuals; those that put up with the bull-shit friends and those that choose not to... Neither one is wrong and/or right... Two perspectives: First One: The one allergic to bullshit... These indi...

My Babo! My future Hubby, ain't he a cutie! Alright-alright-alright... Hehehe... It has been a little over two months since my last post about the "Sh-stuff" +Victor Ngo   says and  I got new material y'all! I love my Babo to another galaxy and back and there are  many reasons as to why... One of the many reasons are for his rawness! And the following is about as real as it gets with this man. He doesn't have a fake bone in his body and he keeps it real- one huneds! Did I say that right +irlanea Luna   ??? Well according to urbandictionary.com thas the correct spelling... Any whooooo... .As always I will provide you with a backstory because outta context they might not make sense... Without further ado.. Here we go... Backstory: At an early age I was obsessed with reading and watching the various biographies of serial killers- From the likings of Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, Jack the Ripper, Charles Manson, so on and ...

Watching "Downton Abbey" and I was inspired by something Mary said, "If you're going to complicate your life, do it for the right reasons." I have processed my trial and error in regards to  my time with my previous employer- at first I didn't allow myself to show any reaction- BUT I am human and I am allowed to react! The quote that has allowed me to process...I'm not sure how the quote goes... it goes along the lines of... "we cant choose what happens to us but we can choose how to react"- And I first decided to take full accountability for what happened - And I still do -  But responsibility = How do I fix it? How do I move on? - Thanks to what Mary said and this awesome blog http://tinybuddha.com/?s=unfairness I came up with the following... Like a chef on the TV show "Top Chef" said once, regardless of anything, you must make a dish that you stand by- and that's what I did... I wrote what I needed to write beca...

In my last post I promised that I would inform y'all of "life slapping me once again" - And after a conversation with my little brother - I am ready-ish to talk about it... My brother affirmed that I have never been known to keep quiet - he reminded me of who I am! That I wear my heart on my sleeve and along with my heart are my values and ideals... So... Long story short, I am unemployed (I originally wrote "in-between jobs" to try and make it sound better) - With the support of my family and my Babo - I am coming out of this almost unscathed... I wanted to take the week to process my whole situation and... I am still processing it, which is why I won't go into details - One thing is for sure, I am working REALLY HARD on focusing on the positives - I am appreciative for the free time that unemployment grants me - In my first week off, my head is clearer, I have been able to spend real quality time with Patch, re-organized my closet, wrote out ...

FYI- some house keeping notes: I am having to write this blog via my phone...Ugh!!! Unreliable technology!!! (apologies now for any shorthanded stuff just extremely annoying having to do this over the phone) I know- I know- For a girl who claims to hate all things technology, I am definitely on this way too much than I claim to hate... And a toot-toot over 1,000 views- I would be lying if I didn't let y'all know how psyched I am to know that y'all are out there reading it, big or small audience, I'm just glad that I'm not totally alone with my thoughts... all the time... Before they're offended, I should clarify, my thoughts are not bad company- In my last post, I mentioned having a dark cloud looming over my head and I'm sure that it was a combination of many things- And just when I thought the cloud was gonna get darker, right before heading to our first scouting expedition, I read a post from @theblogess, (as if by divine intervention) Ok. ...