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What does Keepin It One Hun-ned (real) mean to you...

I have been pondering about this post since I read this Buzzfeed  The 6 Types of Friends Everyone Should Have (Check it out before and/or after reading this post; just make sure to come back ;-)

As I read this Buzzfeed, I kept on asking myself "But why...what's the point" If my friendships are not genuine and they're not substantial, what's the point in a friendship?

Which got me thinking, how many friends do you have and how many of them are legit friends, the "ride or die" friends and which are the friends that are just "along for the ride???"

Interestingly enough, people around began to have this conversations without any bait from me. And people's responses ranged all over the spectrum AND what I summed up were two types of individuals; those that put up with the bull-shit friends and those that choose not to...

Neither one is wrong and/or right...

Two perspectives:

First One: The one allergic to bullshit...

  • These individuals argued that they were of a certain age, that they were grown, and the time for the superficial and "on-the-surface" shit was over- 
  • These individuals also felt betrayed/jaded by their "friend"
  • Their sense of betrayal came from seeing that their friendship was a one way street - that they gave of themselves but the other individual did not
  • They felt confused because the person they once knew began to morph into someone they don't know, which is expected= people change- but the change happens constantly AND they realize their friend is nothing more but a copy-cat or the "fit-in" type
  • None of that meaningless crap meant anything if the friendship couldn't move past Level 1
Solution = Cut 'em the f' outta your life

Second set of Individuals: The ones with their priorities straight...

  • These individuals keep you around because they know what the friendship is worth to you and themselves
  • There is a rational and logical way of looking at these "ride along friends" - you enjoy the ride along  with them as well
  • There is no sense of betrayal because there is an unspoken agreement between these folks like mentioned in all of the "friends" listed on the Buzzfeed
  • The only confusion that exist for this person is how to manage the "ride along" friends with the "ride or die" friends
  • And the most enlightened piece of information I walked away with this weekend, is that this individual realizes that there are different levels of friendships, if you will: "Level 1: On the Surface" and those in between to your "Level 5: Way Below the Surface"
Solution = Accept that there are individuals in your life that come in for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

And I stick to what I said - neither one is right and neither one is wrong - Whatever feels good to you and brings you peace of mind - do that... I haven't quite decided what to do...

One thing remains my truth - determining who are your "ride or die" and "ride along" friends is the most difficult part of this journey...

That is all,

Til next Tuesday,

Toodles -
 


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