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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: Que Sera, Sera....




In my last post I promised that I would inform y'all of "life slapping me once again" - And after a conversation with my little brother - I am ready-ish to talk about it...

My brother affirmed that I have never been known to keep quiet - he reminded me of who I am! That I wear my heart on my sleeve and along with my heart are my values and ideals...

So... Long story short, I am unemployed (I originally wrote "in-between jobs" to try and make it sound better) - With the support of my family and my Babo - I am coming out of this almost unscathed...

I wanted to take the week to process my whole situation and...

I am still processing it, which is why I won't go into details - One thing is for sure, I am working REALLY HARD on focusing on the positives - I am appreciative for the free time that unemployment grants me - In my first week off, my head is clearer, I have been able to spend real quality time with Patch, re-organized my closet, wrote out my personal plans for the year and how I am going to achieve them-  *Footnote*

And by mere coincidence or the fates of life- on the same day I lost my job - a friend text me outta the blue and I hadn't seen her in over a few months - She text me and so I called her - she was "distraught" over a break up - 

We are kindred spirits amongst our other mutual friends - she and I were the only ones in a relationship -
BUT now she no longer has a boyfriend - he broke up with her!

I told her let's meet up, cause I am much better at consoling other people than  myself- And when she told me about the break up, I really wanted to say congratulations... Why...? No not to be ironic... You see... She had already been planning on breaking up with him - And he ended up breaking up with her first--- BURN!

In the last few months she had been complaining, non-stop, through texts, about how he talked, how he walked, his family values, his work ethic, his friends so on and so on... But she really did enjoy the friendships she had developed with his his family -

The perks of being in a relationship kept her there, she knew she wasn't gonna marry the guy but this girl- is a self professed relationship addict - She enjoys being in a relationship for all its perks; companionship and simply having someone in your life to check on you -

But this dude never, genuinely, provided her with all the relationship perks- She was becoming more negative than her usual self, becoming paranoid and distrustful of other's motives - She always talked about it being a stepping-stone til someone else came around -

AND THEN the joke was on her... he dumped her out of no where, criticizing her for the very same things she had been criticizing him- Awwwwkwaaaaard...

So imagine her astonishment, when he tells her this, she broke down crying... And I have a bewildered look on my face as I'm looking at her... Because she starts crying as she tells me this... And I let her know that I am sorry but I am not totally sure why she is crying....

She says, "I know, that's what I'm having trouble coping with... Why am I so distraught over a relationship that I was so 'uuugggghhhh' in?"

And I remind her that she is not distraught over losing him - a man who did not see the value and extraordinary woman she is  who she fell outta love with- I got real with her and reminded her that she didn't always feel that way about him - at one point she did see a bright future with him - within a few months of dating, he asked her to move in and she did cause she did love him, at one point-

And now she was saddened by the lost of his family that she had grown so very fond of - Especially his little sisters who had become her little sisters in the short time they had been together - she is gonna miss taking them out for ice cream, shopping, helping them with their homework and simply the friendship they developed...

But still the irony doesn't escape us, as we finish our sushi and try to laugh off the fact that she ended being the dumpee rather than the dumper... Relationship FAIL! Damn the powers that be!

~ And BTW I totally got her permission to write about this ~ thank you Violet ;-) ~

*(If y'all know of any places hiring - holla at your girl - I got a wedding to plan and pay for and a venue I need to book by this Saturday... woohoo... crossing my fingers- which you may read about in my last post: Click on the Archives to the right "Eat, Drink and Be Married...If only it were that easy" update with picture)
  
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