We decided to write add a new set of vows each wedding/matrimony anniversary and hearing him say what he said touched my heart and tickled my soul in ways that are new and exciting!!!
Our re-newed vows made us reflect on the question that we've gotten asked most often through out our first year of marriage:
"So what has changed in your first year of marriage?"
And at first, we were both a bit bothered by the question because we had been together for 8 years by the time we got married - so technically and practically speaking, we were already "married."
But after much discussion about our first year of marriage, we believe it's fair to say some things have changed.
I love that even when I am MAD as HELL - he attempts and manages to make me smile and laugh. - vs before we would let each other stay mad but when we live together and have made a commitment to each other - we would rather spend the day happy. And no, that doesn't mean that we don't still argue but now, we're just quicker to make up.
I love that we're growing and still learning and meeting different sides of one another. There are sides that neither one of us knew existed - and one being is how protective he is of me and our marriage. Like, I've always known he would protect me but as my husband, he has stepped up his game and in return - it makes me want to be a better wife. And in so many other ways he makes me a better sister and a better daughter.
And my favoritest change in our first year of marriage is hearing my husband introduce me as his wife. I am his wife. I am my husband's wife. I am Vinh's wife. Yeah, I figured out every way to say the smae thing in many different ways - I consider it the equivalent to writing Mrs. Perez-Ngo in my note book a gajillion times;-)
I am proud to call myself his wife for so many reasons but more so for the following Sh-Stuff my hubby says, so without further ado, here they are:
- Backstory: The world has been construed and manipulated to believe that being FAT means being ugly, being lazy, unhealthy, stupid, comic relief, etc. All stereotypes based on someone's means to make money off of people's pursuits to belong and conform. And being who I am - I have tried my best, majority of my life, to be different - to not conform and it was a long journey to finally accept my body as the temple God built for me. BUT that has been MY journey, a long one, and my husband knows how loooong it took me, to see myself as the queen he has always seen me as, so in one instance, when someone was going on and on and on about FAT people, he says:
- "I want you to feel comfortable, so when people talk about fat people in a negative way, I get mad because people wouldn't say those kinds of things about black people if black people were in the same room - so why say them in front of fat people." (And yes my husband calls me fat, it has taken him a while to get use to it but it's due to that manipulation - I pray for the day that the word FAT is synonymous with beauty or that at least it all become sin relative)
- Backstory: By now I am sure that most of you, my loyal readers, have heard or read about our honeymoon horror story from hell! Well, we've had some recurring incidents but at this point we both have become quite experts on the matter and so on one of the many trips to the ER from Honeymoon to just a month ago, he says:
- "My butt hole felt fine until that idiot went poking around it" (The idiot being the Dr)
- Backstory: In the middle of a disagreement, I just started to laugh because I could tell that he couldn't stop squirming. And I told him, "I'm over it, I'm over it...but it has to asked, why did you feel the need to keep talking?" and he says:
- "I got scared, and then I just kept on saying more stupid shit"
- Backstory: At one of our date nights we thanked goodness that after more than 8 years together we still look forward to seeing each other when we get home from work... And we also admitted that sometimes it's also awesome to come home alone and just have time to decompress - so in one of those rare moments that we got at the same time, I "bombarded" him with too many questions and he says:
- "Boba, it's been a long day, can you please just let me not use my brain for a bit"
- Backstory: I was in the middle of cleaning out our closet and for some odd reason had the syllabus from the year we met! And it also had the date from the first day of instruction, the day that I met my husband, January 25th, 2007! So I decided to surprise my hubby, because he rags on me for not remembering special dates - so I finally got him with one! And at this particular dinner, we realized that our wedding anniversary was just around the corner and he says:
- "The best part of marriage is that I have a pretty awesome accessory on my finger now!"
- Backstory: I'm not a good liar so when I attempt to - my husband can see right through me - but when he says the following, it just proves that women are of superior intelligence, for sure!
- "You can't lie to a liar"
- Backstory: I'm not sure there's much I can say to explain this one... But what can I say, is that I promise y'all it's not sexual, it's just about guy on guy hugs... Like literally hugs from one bro to another - side hugs, chest pumps and what my husband calls front to front hugging:
- "I think I might've given him a dick hug"
Our marriage is a challenge everyday and everyday is a blessing- and how we choose to react is our power! So let's rejoice in this past year and the many more, God willing, to come!
That is all,
'Til next time.
Toodles,
MRS. Perez-Ngo
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